Be vigilant — save the nation

Parents must inculcate the zeal for social work in their kids. Parents should never shout and argue with each other in front of their children. Neither they should snub and make them quiet. We should never ignore the ego and self-respect of the children. Their talent and achievement must be encouraged and awarded. Parents must not impose their orders against their mood. This will build a rebellion in their minds

Our Print and Electronic Media are too loaded with politics. They never bother about severe social problems. There are no media of a country on earth that covers more politics than ours. In other countries, media contents are generally problem-based. The purpose of their features/articles or talk shows remains solutions to the problems. If our media discuss human rights issues those are also politicized.

These were the impressions of prominent Psychologist Dr. Noor-ul- Zaman who is working for the rehabilitation of narcotic-affected people for the last many years. He deplored the fast-spreading drug addictions in Pakistani youth which are destroying precious lives. He said that it is only a misconception that people start taking drugs because of their poverty. The main cause of this menace is the drug traffickers who along with their network remain in search of youth belonging to rich families. Elite-class schools are not safe from the drug mafia. These people try to prepare drug user groups in every elite-class school. They have different tactics like setting up some eateries the schools and mixing drugs in the food for slow effects and then increasing it to the fatal level. For addicted their agents are available for continuous supply. Dr. Noor said that his father was the first Muslim Deputy Commissioner of Bahawalpur. It was not liked in the family to do social work for the welfare of such people. He visited China and saw there two women who were taking care of three hundred children whose parents died because of HIV.  These women also managed some jobs for these kids and were feeding them well. Dr. Noor started taking interest in such social activities and on his return to Pakistan, he found a woman who was HIV positive and her husband had died.

He started work for her rehabilitation. The people around him advised him not to do such work. They told him that with a rich family background he should not even talk to such people but he knew that giving a new life only to one person is equal to saving the lives of the whole of humanity. I want to proceed further in saving people’s lives. I am a Rotary member, one day a lady in the Rotary called me for helping someone. Here the case was the tussle between two families. One family cunningly started giving drugs slowly in food. As a result, the young boy’s condition was so bad that his mother herself was compelled to purchase drugs to save his life. But this beautiful and intelligent child could not be saved. There are many restaurants in the city where drugs are available. Private universities are admitting girls but don’t provide hostel accommodation for their girl students. It creates many problems. Private female hostels don’t have strict discipline like public universities.

That is why we often listen to scandals about them. It is the parent’s responsibility to see where and in which environment their children are getting the education and in the community what type of association and friendships they have. They must have some surveillance over them. It is easy for becoming their friends. They should feel free to share with the parents all of their experiences and any problems they face from any side.  For children’s sound mental growth parent’s continuous contact and frank discussion with them is necessary. For this parents must give them some quality time. This time should be only for discussing their education and other activities. People generally find dinner time appropriate for this purpose. It could be better if we even don’t eat something while giving them quality time. If after all, it is not possible then for strengthening your family unity and for more happy moments the whole family must have at least one meal; breakfast, lunch, or dinner together.   During these hours parents must present themselves as a role model before their children. These moments must be utilized for moral teachings. Children must be asked about their future ambitions and careers so that they may fix their life targets and fix their attention in some specific area. Often we can discuss with them the news of their special interest area. Parents must insert in their minds the love for humanity, sympathy for the younger and the weaker, and respect for elders.

Parents must inculcate the zeal for social work in their kids. Parents should never shout and argue with each other in front of their children. Neither they should snub and make them quiet. We should never ignore the ego and self-respect of the children. Their talent and achievement must be encouraged and awarded. Parents must not impose their orders against their mood. This will build a rebellion in their minds. A child cannot develop a balance in his personality under the pressure of parents or teachers. Parents must go on shopping together with children at least once a week. Be vigilant about any change in their behaviour. If they spend more time in the washroom, become aggressive or sluggish take notice of it. Dr. Noor warned that our children have become unsafe. Until and unless school administrations don’t control their environment strictly and intelligence and anti-narcotic agencies are not vigilant, civilians themselves can’t control this drug mafia.

With 50 years of teaching experience, Professor Dr. Shafiq Jullandhry, a noted writer and author of award-winning books, is former chairman of Punjab University's Mass Communication Department (now School of Communication Studies); also heads Elaaf Club and Pakistan Media Guild as president. He can be reached at [email protected].